This article was written by Yaroslava. She has been working at a Kiev office of Unona for about 2 years.
This is one of the questions that very often appears in mind of foreigners who start international dating and communication with women from Eastern Europe. If Ukrainian women and girls posses almost all qualities for an ideal wife why can they not find potential husbands in their homeland?
Every person has a certain priority and mission in this life, a calling they were born for. For Ukrainian women traditionally this mission is being a mother and wife, nurturing, taking care of the family, and giving love unconditionally. It is surprising to a Ukrainian woman to discover that women of other nationalities seem to have other longings in their lives. Sometimes their whole life is spent for career and it is often too late that they realize what is really important.
Even though several years have passed since our society has changed, many women in Ukraine are now successful politicians and business owners, which are traditionally male pursuits.The truth is that a woman can realise herself and thus be really happy only as wife and mother. No business or other life and career achievements can replace that. That is why there is a time in every woman’s life when she feels ready to realise her inner potential.
We always ask our clients when they come first time at our office- why you are looking for a man in another country? We receive different answers, but always can get the same conclusion. Women want to be appreciated. They need care, love and attention. They are looking for a true soul mate, and usually it doesn’t matter for them whether their future husband would be Ukrainian or not and International dating is one of the options in their search.
Love, married life, happy life in marriage – this is what every woman dreams about, isn’t it? Meeting her soul mate, getting married, having family, bearing and raising children: these are the words which are important and valuable, understandable for everyone whatever his or her nationality.
There are also some hard facts. The biggest is that Ukrainian women simply do not have much choice, due to a shortage of unmarried men in Ukraine. It is very difficult to find a decent partner here. If a woman is divorced, with child or children (Ukrainian women are usually devoted mothers), or lives in a small city, her chances are often close to zero.
The scientific research informs us that the number of single women for one man has increased greatly for the past twenty years. There are different factors that influence this. Two main reasons are biology and economy. Ukrainian men live 10-20 years less than men in developed European countries and work in more difficult conditions. A third of men in Ukraine do not live to age sixty. Due partially to bad habits such as smoking and alcohol many men are in poor health by the age of forty, while in Europe this age is only the start for having a family. In certain age groups the ratio of men to women can be as low as 1:4. Our men are in no hurry to get married, to have a family, to take on responsibilities, especially now during the economic crisis.
That is why Ukrainian women find other opportunities, one of which is International Dating services that provide numerous agencies in Ukraine. The women want to realize themselves in family life, they want to be loved and appreciated, and they want to be safe, to be cared for. Ukrainian woman believe that men from abroad are the ones who can help them, the ones who will be husbands they dream about and loving father to their children.
Ukrainian ladies have much to offer to family-oriented foreigners. Ukrainian women have a dream of a caring, responsible and loving husband who would want to spend quality time with the family, traveling with his wife, joking and laughing together, spending quiet evenings at home before the fireplace or watching sunset on the beach, playing with children. It is a dream that can come true.